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True she is entitled to take money from me acts like she is financially suffering but then I see her Dior bags been posted on Instagram!!

One trip with her and my eyes opened forever!! I suggest doing that if you doubt your friend is a narcissist

Thank you for caring so much, it shows. I’m an Only child of a covert narc mother and a unloving absent father . People think an only child is “spoiled” and people judge you for being one…. If only they knew of the suffering and loneliness we suffered as children due to the parental abuse. I’m 50 now and only just coming to terms with all my romantic relationship failings due to my toxic shame from childhood.

Thank you❤

“Friendships”. Struggling to get out of one. She calls me because she knows I’m usually not well, and then she is fueled by knowing I feel bad. Feels very rotten..

This is such a mature way of interacting with her! This video confirmed my doubt about a narcississtic friend I have and I really not want to end the relationship but rather set boundaries, and if that doesn't work I'll have to end our friendship.. Thank you so much for the help!

Its a very huge mistake to think, you may have a real friend in a narc person - because they are not able to be friends - they are abusers who take all your energy and joy !

The problem with this whole “authentic” movement is that the narcissist or toxic person will say that they are just being authentic. I’m so tired of hearing about being authentic. It is becoming an excuse for really bad and hurtful behavior. Make the standard “healthy” and if your authentic self is not healthy, there needs to be intentional focus on growth, healing, and deep inner work.

Very nice outlook. Taking the high road. You go girl!

True. Have a BF (female as me and in same age) for 18 years. She occupated my life and time so much that I hardly could breathe and EVERYTHING was about Her, Her and Her always 😟 For 1 year ago I took notes of everything and could see clear the pattern of a fullblod EGO in her personality but also some scary narcissist behavior. I ended our BF-ship after I had told her all things. Never felt so relifed for many years since that last call to her 😇

Thank You Petra for this reminder 🌹🙏💞

Lovely to see and hear from you again Petra! Thanks for all of your help 💞

Your voice is still so soothing. Thank you for saving my sanity when I dealt with narc abuse a few years back. I binged your videos!

BEWARE OF THOSE NASTY DARK EMPATHS!

The person I know will often make bold, definitive statements. When asked for further clarification , it's crickets! Seems to always know everything about everything, but very clear he doesn't. He is part of a longtime friend group. I try not to engage in conversation with him!

Hello how are you? You were one of my Narc coaches back in 2019. Most definitely Petra, I think we should forgive ourselves first so we’re on our way to healing and able to forgive the Narc person. Thank you for this video 🙏🙏

Merci, I am on my track now.......forgiveness for myself

So I'm on the autistic spectrum in an adult late diagnosis and I've noticed a pattern of these types of people in my life even my mother and my father. I struggle with the guilt of not leaving them to deal with their own stuff from the gym. I would ask them if they were using me and they would deny it. That's my fault. It's hard to ever want to help a friend or someone acting friendly anymore. For the sake of authenticity.

Every damn one resonates

❤🙏💚

Let go and let god

Thank you Petra

I have just found your channel a couple of months ago and have been binging your old content. Thank you so much for what you do 🙏🏽 and off topic but that blouse you’re wearing is so beautiful 😍

Long process. Thank you for the reminder. 💛

Yes, thank you! So many times I have heard the advice to forgive the other person, but rarely hear how important it is to forgive yourself for all the years you put up with it

I know but Thank You for reminding me 🙏🥰

Thank you Petra, you’re a natural at this. You have so much wisdom and the gift of counsel. You also have such a soothing and comforting voice. I have major sensory issues and some speakers while they have excellent content I have a hard time listening to them. Another example of a soothing speaker would be Dr. Ramani, I wish my mother had spoken to me the way you both do, she was always sooooo intense, dramatic, and spoke very fast. Again, Thank you 🙏

Thank you, thank you, thank you 🙏 I’m going through a “friend breakup” with a narcissist female and while I’m sad the friendship is over, I know it is for the best. I’m tired of the gaslighting, the put-downs, the one-sided conversations… this was extremely validating and helpful.

Yes. When they seem interested in your life they are gathering ammunition.

Yes. The giving became transactional.

"You think that's how you feel, but that's not how you actually feel." "I think you are confused."

My mother has called me to take her to the emergency room, I rush over and she’s putting on makeup and choosing her outfit. True story!

Excellent!

My mother apologized when she finally realized she lost all power. Unable to identify "what" she was sorry for or "why" she was sorry - unable to identify what the impact/hurt was. That's how I knew it was fake. Its just to try and get back to what they're used to.

10:48 What kind of fairytales do these professionals study, when they disregard the angst of the victims?

Thank you so much! It’s what I needed right now!🤗

heavy on the last one

Feel like im trapped in my own hell

I had a church friend who I took place 3 or 4 times a week. when she got to her destination she would goast me and when it was time to go home she would come up to me and I always take her home. Two people approached me and pointed it out to me. You are so good to her and when she gets to the church door she would blank me until it was time to go home. I was very sick before Easter with covid and we were to go out one night and I cancelled. She was very angry I let her down. I am a diabetic abd if I am unable to eat and I am.not allowed to drive she did not care. I told her how I felt and she never even said sorry. I have walked away from her She is never wrong. Thank you for this video.

My ex narc is on a mission to make my lifelong friends for over 30 years into seasonal friends…one in particular is an extreme empath who I love dearly but is now questioning my morality in going no contact with the abuser. I’m doing everything I’m supposed to be doing, no contact, not engaging or defending myself etc…but watching this relationship die is gutting.

I'm a 35 year old only child (daughter) of a narcissistic single mother. She did marry when I was 10 and of course had me legally adopted. They are still together which on one hand relieved some of the abuse I would receive from her but it also made it impossible to have a healthy relationship with my adoptive father. Since growing up and creating distance it has become really hard to see the totality of her abuse heaped onto him. I need very minimal contact with my mother because I find myself mirroring her narcissistic tendencies when we spend time together, and I don't want to be that kind of mother. I had multiple children to protect them from the isolation of being an only child in case I turned out like her. It's been a lifelong process of detangling myself from her web and learning to discern reality from manufactured drama. I could honestly write my own book about the experience.

When I went no contact w/a narcissistic friend I was not concerned if she bad mouthed me to others. It would be her lies and honestly; going no contact w/her gave me peace of mind that I desperately needed to begin to heal from the experience. I felt like I had been set free!

Wow, your red flags describe the experience I had w/a narcissistic friend. I was exhausted after spending time w/her and at the same time a nervous wreck. She finally went into a txt rage because I refused to say what she desired. I immediately went no contact. Blocked her. Interestingly, whenever I mentioned anyone in conversation, she always had something negative to say about the person. I might mention the nicest person imagined and she still had to make negative comments about them. No contact gave me peace of mind. Her need to control and her need to always be right, never wrong was crazy. God Bless you all.

Oh hell no

Children!

They get mad its like wtf you left me

Dont bother

They get married for WHAT

Theres nothing good about them.... nothing

I just got rid of a narcissistic therapist who was fully exploitative and covertly abusive. He was being all weird and giving off this creepy energy when I first met them in person for the first while of live sessions. I literally had to make it abundantly clear i was heterosexual and was harsh about gay men coming on and that stopped the weird shit , but later on just before I sacked him he was being passive aggressive ect. I’m now left retraumatised from narcissistic abuse by A THERAPIST with all the phd stupid fuckin qualifications. All those accolades and titles mean jack shit to me and nor should they count for anything if the therapist doesn’t have a good heart and is corrupt like he was. Literally mocking and living vicariously through their patients. This video is poignant thanks